I Feel That Men Want Sex More Than Women For Both Biological and Social Reasons

The old saying â€Å"it is a man’s world† attributes to the chauvinist characteristic of men; where clinical experts hinted on the findings that men are genetically made to primarily lead the procreation with women. As cited from the electronic article of Steve Connor (2008) in the Agonist.Org, the common notion could be relevant to the instinctive nature of men with regard to their sexual desires towards the opposite sex, wherein men prefer casual sex than women (1).Therefore, the question is; do men want sex more than women for both biological and social reasons? This hypothetical question will be the topical discussion of this paper, examining the basis of agreement or disagreement through the use of empirical findings.Situational analysisTo relate the above hypothetical question, I agree that men want sex more than women for both biological and social reasons. On the contrary, the viewpoint of Dick Masterson (2009) of MenAre BetterThanWomen.Com claims that women hav e their pitfalls as a physical and emotional weakness.Thus, my agreement will be proven by the succeeding situational analysis on the circumstance of men’s natural characteristic, relating the biological and sociological advances to women.In ‘Peeking inside the Mind of the Boy Dating Your Daughter’ by Tara Parker-Pope, which was published in 2008 by The New York Times electronic magazine, has cited that the â€Å"peer factor† critically influences the discovery of the boys about girls (1). Tara Parker-Pope (2008) has written and described the following findings:â€Å"Physical attractiveness and the desire to be acquainted with someone are the usual and familiar reasons of   boys who are sexually active, and most likely said they pursued sex without commitment of love and primarily want to explore sex or to satisfy physical desires† (2).Based on the findings, it shows that most of young men are driven by their likings getting acquainted first with women, discovering the feelings or desires for the opposite sex. It may be then analyzed that the situation of â€Å"getting acquainted† is attributed by the peer factor.As cited, many young men [especially the teenagers between the ages of 14-16] are willing to lose their virginity at the very young age since they are vulnerable to peer-pressures, and most likely willing to explore the company of women (2).On the other hand, there seems a â€Å"balance† on the attitude of men towards a sexual partner, in which adult males thinks about the idea how could the social and biological life of women adopt to the same gender relationship, pertaining to the willingness of a girl in discovering or experimenting the kind of relationship (2).However, there is case to case basis or â€Å"social circumstance† when a girl get into the same gender relationship, of which one of the factors is socio-economic survival (3).From the article ‘A New Kind of Date Rape’ by Laura Sessions Stepp (2009) which was published by Cosmopolitan electronic magazine, the varying circumstances of men’s insatiable attraction to women has been emphasized.Accordingly, there is the so-called â€Å"gray rape† which refers to having sexual relationship with someone in between consent and denial (2). Stepp (2009) implied this kind of circumstance as trauma to a woman who questions herself after having sex with someone.In other words, the â€Å"tolerance† that first instinctively happened with a partner was uncertain and could have been persistently encouraged or lured by the male partner.The circumstance of rape is always evidently demonstrating the chauvinist character of men, although there are very remote cases when women are accused of raping men. What shows in the first evidence of rape is the enticement of a man to woman (2).Like for instance is the encouragement of a man for dating a woman, showing the desire of â€Å"insistent emotion† which a woman has a weak spot of being passionately desired for neither loved or needed (3). However, this kind of insistent emotion makes women vulnerable to â€Å"gray rape† to the point of statutory sexual assault (3).Stepp (2009) pointed out that insistent emotion of men towards women are merely physical desires, aside from the â€Å"psychosocial esteem† which men commonly feels satisfied or fulfilled once they have achieved the confidence of women.As cited, several cases of rape come first as a date, wherein men stereotype the approach of seduction and intimidations (3). Further, many rape victims in urban cities were dating partners who were allured to alcohol drinking or pot sessions leading to use of drugs and other illegal substances (3).It shows that women are vulnerable to the advantages of men. On the other hand, the vulnerabilities can be found on the physical and emotional weaknesses of women which are the pitfall (3).Thus, this can be equated to the à ¢â‚¬Å"gray rape† which refers to the unpredictable or indecisive tolerance of women to accept or deny the desires of men. However, this finding is still analogous to deceitful acts of men in terms of taking the advantages or opportunity of the situation. At this juncture, Stepp (2009) categorized and wrote the findings, as follows:â€Å"Numerous studies found â€Å"gray rape† as an outcome of the modern day socio-cultural groupings of men and women where plentiful interactions through social gatherings entices flirtations as additionally triggered by alcohol and drugs, of which even encourages men to be more sexually daring and harmful† (3).In which case, Stepp (2009) also proves the â€Å"social factor† or reasons why aside from the biological aspect, men can become more viciously desiring women.Reflective of the social factor, it may be perceived that the situation tends to justify the means, pertaining to providing understanding why men commit sexual ab use. But, certain understanding to the social factor owes the analysis that men links social interactions as the â€Å"given opportunity† or established venue to entrap the vulnerability of women.As cited, social interaction can be an easement for men to set the â€Å"social rules†, misunderstanding women who look for relationship and not free-and-easy sex (3).Another sociological finding explores why men do not separate from being boys, referring to the idea that men always retain the â€Å"teenage attitude† as they grow old. Michael Kimmel in his book ‘The Perilous World Where Boys Become Men’ which was published in 2008 by Harper-Collins Publishers has argued that contemporary matured men â€Å"drift† in a life-threatening social system (2).As a sociologist, Kimmel (2008) has accounted his findings through the conduct of interviews to numerous young and adult men with different types of occupation. Kimmel wrote his following findings:  Ã ¢â‚¬Å"The typical young American man nowadays is phasing in to a newly developed social culture not perturbed or put out by the burden of family, a girlfriend, workplace and other annoyances of adult-life† (3).Kimmel (2008) implies the retention of men’s masculinity that establishes the societal structure of what he described as â€Å"guyland† being a territorial ground of men where women competes.Based on the book, the competing genre of women challenges the â€Å"guyland† which makes women more vulnerable to the effects of competition. Like for example, the prevalence of sexual harassments in workplaces manifests the dominant character of men to the opposite gender (3).Kimmel (2008) explained that the emerging â€Å"gender competition†, pertaining to the emerging women interaction to the usual men’s occupation or life-interests, poses a challenging stance to the men’s world (guyland) that entices men to explore the personality of wom en competitors.As cited, exploring the personality of woman competitor varies in a challenging discovery from simple seduction to grave intimidation (4). Thus, Kimmel (2008) critically considers the â€Å"intuition† as part of a social factor.Correlating the findings of Kimmel (2008) to the topical discussions, biological and social reasons or factors favors the agreement that men want sex more than women. The aspect of â€Å"men’s world† conjugates the natural characteristic of men for being a â€Å"pre-dominant entity† in the social structure of gender and societal personality of women.This analogy can be deduced from what Kimmel (2008) described as the â€Å"territorial ground† of men, in which also means as a social structure or system that is only ruled by men. Therefore, women must submit to the harmful challenge of men and live with it.It can be reflected that what the contemporary needs today is a crucial co-existence regardless of gender o r personality in the social system. Men and women alike must redefine their vital roles in the perspectives of developing family values so that the new generation of young men and women would be responsible procreators. At this point, Kimmel (2008) wrote the following prognosis:â€Å"To map-out the future social-world of men must redefine what men are presently made;   enabling the integral role of women in nurturing the path of their young boys from the vicious effects of society where â€Å"guyland† must reciprocate the reputation of reliable and responsible men† (6).Indeed, women have a vital role in reforming the biological and social factors affecting the behavior of men. Of which Kimmel (2008) pointed out that if women actively participate in liberating the society, then, why not specifically persevere in the parental function of women to redirect the socio-cultural reorientation within the family (7).This proposition can be acknowledged by the fact that the ro le of women in the family is to provide guidance to the children, specifically the role of mothers. At least, but not just an option, the family-value orientation stirs the consciousness of the children, becoming aware of the sociological influences that patterns behavior and beliefs of children as they grow up (7).On the same reasons, Kimmel (2008) emphasized the importance of â€Å"converting the guyland† as a territorial ground for the virtuous men who are sympathetic and ethically conforming to the morality of women (8).ConclusionThe sexual desires of men symbolize his dominant character to the opposite sex, wherein women are treated as a â€Å"utility† in the fulfillment of masculinity or chauvinism. Additionally, women’s desires for a responsive relationship are being perceive or misunderstood as a pitfall. The personality of women in the classification of gender becomes a defenseless weaker sex.